I was working with one of my dear clients last night (how do I get to work with such awesome women?!), and it was a tough session.
She came to me with her head down and her tail between her legs – she’d had an all-out binge for the first time in weeks. Her voice quivered as she told me about hitting multiple drive thru’s and stopping for ice cream not once, not twice, but three times.
Her raw feelings of shame and heartbreak are totally normal. The diet and fitness industries preach that progress is a linear trend. You make up your mind on what you’ll do – stop eating this, start eating that, do the workouts, lose the weight, etc – and your progress should look like this:
C’mon girl, if you reeeeally want it bad enough, if you’re reeeeeally committted, your chart will look just like that. #NoExcuses.
Bullshit.
Overcoming sugar addiction, emotional eating, and food obsession is a winding, whirling, whiplash ride! Setbacks, learning curves, and even lying to yourself are all part of the experience! They are part of making progress!
You know what I see here?:
Progress.
Here?:
Progress.
And here?:
Oh yeah, that’s some juicy progress!
So, what does failure look like?
This:
THE ONLY WAY TO FAIL IS TO QUIT SHOWING UP!
If you quit learning, quit trying, quit picking yourself up and aiming for the next small win, then fear and hate won.
My client will march into this week a wiser, stronger woman with even more love in her heart than before.
And so will you.
Note: I got full permission from my client to share this story. If you ever share anything with me, I will not share it without your explicit permission. My mouth is a steel trap door surrounded by an 11 foot fence topped with electrified barbed wire. Cool?
#SpeakItDontEatIt
