Let’s discuss exactly how to stay motivated when you’re not seeing the results yet.
I have some really practical mind tools and exercises you can use to stay focused, stay on track, keep going, even when visibly or emotionally you’re not seeing the results yet that you are aiming for.
I come from a background in the fitness industry. You know, the bikini fitness competitions, the being a personal trainer – so I really empathize with this drive and this need to see measurable results ASAP. Because that is what the industry is based on.
Here’s the first question I ask my clients:
“What’s the alternative?”
What I mean is – so go ahead, stop.
Stop doing it.
That’s a non-option!
I think you need to hold up. Zoom out. Ask, “what’s the alternative here?” To just not do it? To just not exercise? To just not move my body? To just go home? That’s not really an option! You’ve tried that!
You’ve tried not doing it. And not doing it got you to a place where you were so unsatisfied and unhappy with yourself that it was worth adding in these challenging new behaviors. Whether it’s changing what you eat, or starting to work out, or taking better care of yourself, or getting to sleep earlier, the discomfort of the challenge is still better than the discomfort of not doing.
Zoom out and ask, “what’s the rush?!” What’s the rush? Get a little perspective for a second here. We have been sold this idea that transformation takes six weeks. You guys, that’s crazy. That’s absolutely insane. You’re not on The Biggest Loser. You’re living your life, girl. You’re in this for the long haul.
So what is the alternative? To just not do it? No, you’re deciding to do this. You’re deciding to go in and change and transform who you are. So that’s a perspective shift and a real series of questions you need to walk yourself through when you’re in the gym, and it’s week four, or its month four, and you’re looking in the mirror, and you’re not happy with what you see.
You have got to stop the comparison scrolling.
You guys, the Pinterest, the Instagram, the Facebook, the fit chick, body goals, inspo, fitspo…Literally what you’re doing is stunting your ability to stay motivated from the get go.
I completely empathize with this. I really do. Back when I was in the industry and I really felt like my body was my calling card, what I did was, I created an entire second Instagram account that was secret and nobody knew I had. I used it to just follow hundreds of fit, or skinny, or body goals, big butts, models, like the abs, and the hips, I followed all of them – like a fucking weirdo – because I believed that that was going to help motivate me.
Here’s what it actually did though: every time I looked in the mirror I saw my body with their bodies superimposed on top of mine. It was like they were a pair of glasses I had it on. And when I looked at myself in the mirror, all I saw – I never saw a results, I never saw satisfaction, I never saw me. I saw what I didn’t have yet. That’s all I could see.
So you’ve got to take the glasses off.
I am not the thinnest, or the leanest, or the fittest I’ve ever been. But, now that I don’t do that, when I look in the mirror, I am more proud of my body, and I feel sexier than ever before. Because now when I look in the mirror, I don’t see anybody else’s body on top of mine. What I see is “Oh girl, you’ve been taking care of yourself!” I say, “Well, yes, I have.” That feels good!
If when you look in the mirror you see the love you’ve been giving your body, its going to feel really good. You’re going to see so many results and you’re going to be even more motivated to keep going. I know that’s like a little woo woo, and a little, like, heartsie, but you guys, like, where the soul and the science of health and well-being meet – that’s the sweet spot. That’s where you really can plant some seeds, and really change, and really see change. So that’s why we’re talking bout it.
One final thing, we’re going to pull it back into kind of the more physical sciences. I want you to keep this bit of information in your purse. And I want you to pull it out when you’re feeling unmotivated, or frustrated, or like you’re not seeing results that are like drastic enough.
This is a fact. This is an evidence-based, research supported fact:
The slower you lose weight, the slower you change your diet, the slower you go, the longer lasting results.
Because your brain doesn’t fight back. Your body doesn’t fight back. Your metabolism doesn’t fight back. All of these things. Even your heart. Like, your heart doesn’t fight back. Because you’re just moving slow and you’re staying in your flow.
In 2013, the Agency for Healthcare Research and Quality published a comparative effectiveness review. And what they determined – this on the books – is that a weight loss rate of about one pound a week is optimal for sustained weight loss.
As I post this, it’s the end of January. If you started changing your behaviors or adding new healthy habits like exercising, working out, or changing what you eat at the beginning of this month, you might have lost three pounds.
That’s like nothing.
But, it’s everything.
Because here’s the difference: who cares if you hit that goal by May if all that weight comes back on by November? If you move drastically, even if you get “there” sooner, wherever “there” is, the girl who’s there in May is going to be so wound up and anxious. Because, you know you are so exhausted, and burnt out, and you are this close to just pendulum swinging all the way back to eating ice cream on the couch because you’re sad and lonely, and to just saying, “fuck it.”And all weight’s going to come back on. You know it.
So, what if instead, you wait till November, but when you get there you’re cruising?! You’re on fucking cruise control, because you’re doing things that are sustainable! So, the slower you go the better your results are going to be.
Treat yourself like you love yourself.
Eat like you love yourself.
Move like you love yourself.
And your body will respond accordingly. And there won’t be that rebound Ping-Pong. Ok?
I could literally just keeping talking about this probably for an hour and a half. So I’m going to cut it short.
Please let me know in the comments below, I would LOVE to know, what is your goal right now? What are you working toward?
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